Men’s rights activists don’t organize marches; they don’t build shelters or raise funds for abused men; they don’t organize prostate cancer-awareness events or campaign against prison rape. What they actually do, when they’re not simply carping in comments online, is target and harass women—from feminist writers and professors to activists—in an attempt to silence them.
Violence does not consist so much in injuring and annihilating persons as in interrupting their continuity, making them play roles in which they no longer recognize themselves, making them betray not only commitments but their own substance, making them carry out actions that will destroy every possibility for action.
Two months ago, a mom-blogger reported that a redneck in Walmart assaulted her 2-year-old son for wearing a pink headband; last month, a waitress at Red Lobster reported that a customer scrawled the N-word on her receipt; two weeks ago, we heard about a lesbian server who, in place of a tip,…
Reminder, check out for extra sources on these sensationalist stories…
Practice now by checking out this guy’s sources!
We live in a world that tells certain populations they were born to follow. Women. Minorities. The poor. Youth. The list of voices often silenced goes on and on and on and on. And when individuals from these various groups emerge as leaders or to the forefront of a movement, they are strategically sensationalized. Not to take anything from those individuals because they are indeed sensational, but they are glorified and made to seem abnormal so that others from their respective group will see their success as unattainable and inapplicable to their own lives. They’re seen as anomalies and untouchable. Maybe even flukes. They’re placed on pedestals so high that the common person who belongs to the same marginalized group as the almighty superhuman can relate to them in appearance or nationality or beliefs but not in potential influence or ambition or perseverance.
I do agree, but must also say that when this happens to me I do feel a little sad if the person who unfriended me is someone I enjoy.
However, each time I meet these people in public, post removal of us as “friends”, I’m reminded that we never see each other and usually get along well despite this superfluous ‘friending’ on the social network.
It’s about perspective I guess, few people probably actively dislike you, but also don’t need to be tethered down to you either